Post-Election Survival: Why Cancel Culture Isn’t the Answer
This might be a little uncomfortable for some of you…
It happens every four years like clockwork: election season sweeps through our lives, leaving a trail of red and blue in its wake. The debates, the yard signs, the heated social media posts—it’s turmoil. I find it exhausting, don’t you?
And once the votes are counted and the results are announced, something unsettling lingers: the realization that not everyone in our circle shares our political beliefs.
In a normal year, most of us feel relatively aligned with the “rest of the world.” Our families, friends, and colleagues tend to mirror our values, or at least that’s how it feels. We gather around shared interests and assumptions, cocooned in the comforting notion that while life may not be perfect, it works. But during an election year, that illusion can shatter.
Suddenly, your aunt’s Facebook post makes you cringe. Your best friend’s offhand comment feels like a personal attack. The divide between “us” and “them” grows, and the temptation to cut ties is strong. After all, about 1 in 4 Americans admit they’ve ended a friendship over political differences. I will admit, I’ve been tempted to block more than one person in my circle.
But before you “cancel” your relationships or retreat into an echo chamber, let’s pause. Is that really the solution?
The Problem with Canceling Connection
Here’s the thing: cancel culture is seductive. It feels empowering to draw a line in the sand, to say, “I don’t need this toxicity in my life.” And yes, in some cases—like abusive or harmful relationships—it’s absolutely necessary to set boundaries. But when it comes to disagreements, especially political ones, cutting people off isn’t always the answer.
If we surround ourselves only with those who think and act like us, we lose the opportunity to learn, to grow, and, perhaps most importantly, to teach. Dialogue—real, messy, uncomfortable dialogue—is how bridges are built. Without it, the divide only widens.
What About Misinformation?
Dealing with misinformation is especially challenging because it can feel like you’re battling an alternate reality. But instead of immediately shutting down the conversation or resorting to fact-checking wars, try this approach:
Lead with Empathy, Not Frustration
Understand that misinformation thrives on fear and mistrust. When someone you care about shares it, they may be reacting to an underlying emotion, like anxiety or anger. Start by acknowledging their feelings:
“I can see why that might be concerning.”
“It sounds like you’re really passionate about this issue.”
This helps defuse defensiveness and opens the door to dialogue.
Ask Thought-Provoking Questions
Instead of telling someone they’re wrong, invite them to think critically:
“Where did you find this information?”
“Have you seen any other perspectives on this topic?”
“What do you think would happen if that wasn’t entirely true?”
These questions can gently guide them toward re-evaluating their sources without making them feel attacked.
Share Credible Information Without Preaching
If appropriate, offer a reliable article, study, or resource that provides a different perspective:
“I came across this article the other day, and it had an interesting take on this issue. Would you be open to checking it out?”
Frame it as sharing, not correcting.
Know When to Let Go
If someone is deeply entrenched in misinformation, recognize when the conversation is no longer productive. It’s okay to step back and focus on maintaining a respectful relationship rather than convincing them to change their mind.
How to Have Open, Productive Conversations
Beyond addressing misinformation, we can all work on creating space for dialogue that fosters connection rather than division:
Approach with Curiosity, Not Judgment
Instead of leaping into debates armed with facts and rebuttals, lead with questions. Ask:
“What makes you feel that way?”
“How did you come to that conclusion?”
People are more likely to open up when they feel heard.
Ask to Share Your Perspective
After listening, gently ask, “Would you be open to hearing another point of view?” This creates space for mutual respect and understanding.
Focus on Common Ground
While we may not agree on solutions, many of us share the same frustrations: the brokenness of our government, the desire for a better future. Start there.
Use Mindfulness as Your Anchor
Engaging in these conversations can be emotionally taxing. Before diving in, take a moment to ground yourself. Breathe deeply, check in with your emotions, and remind yourself of your intention: connection, not conversion.
Why It Matters
The truth is, we’re all navigating the same storm—just in different boats. While our political affiliations might separate us, our humanity connects us. Learning to coexist, even in disagreement, is a radical act of hope.
Instead of letting post-election angst drive a wedge between us, let’s lean into the discomfort. Let’s commit to conversations that challenge us, deepen our empathy, and remind us that progress doesn’t happen in silos.
Because in the end, the goal isn’t to agree on everything. It’s to remember that we’re all in this together.
How do you navigate political disagreements—or deal with misinformation—in your relationships? Let me know in the comments. And if you found this helpful, share it with someone who might need a reminder that connection matters more than ever.
About Meg
I wear several hats that allow me to contribute positively to the lives of those around me. As a health coach, I am committed to guiding individuals on their wellness journeys, helping them make sustainable choices that lead to vibrant and balanced lives. Through my role as a yoga teacher, I have the privilege of sharing the transformative benefits of this ancient practice with my students. Moreover, as a personal trainer, I believe in empowering others to harness their physical potential and lead active lives.
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